ultoMa said:the tradition argument is getting tiresome...we've had plenty of 'traditions' that we have no problem letting go of.
there used to be a tradition that married couples had boyfriends and girlfriends and were looked down upon if they didn't. Why can't we bring that one back?
Just because it's 'tradition' does not excuse it's stupidity and uselessness in modern day. You can't use the tradition argument if you're picking and choosing which ones to follow. If you make that argument, you have to follow EVERY tradition.
It all depends on how seriously the person is taking this tradition, the whole thing is meant to be a light hearted affair, especially when you're going out with someone for a while and both families are aware of it. Similar to how many men ask for the woman's hand from her father even though its a done deal, our people send their family to ask for her hand even though the couple have already agreed.
I do try to follow every tradition that I'm aware of and help keep it alive.