we can have 10 kids, we just need to stop buying them useless crap and wisely spend our money. Have enough to pay the necessary bills like the house, water, heat etc. and never go into debt even if u think you can pay it off.Free_Assyria said:That’s unfair to blame an Assyrian women for something that society has changed over time.
Let’s face it this no one is having kids like they use to, our parents generation were in different economic conditions, back then one person would work and they would feed 10 people. Now two people have to work just to survive if you want a good quality life for your children you need to be earning above average wage. I’m not talking about a bugaboo pram or an ipad 2 for your kids I’m talking about education, healthcare and housing.
I would love to have 10 kids but i don’t want to compromise their quality of life.
you didnt read my post, im not sure what country you live in, but here in australia heat, water, gas, electricity, education, food is expensive having 10 mouths to feed is not easy.mrzurnaci said:we can have 10 kids, we just need to stop buying them useless crap and wisely spend our money. Have enough to pay the necessary bills like the house, water, heat etc. and never go into debt even if u think you can pay it off.
But you didn?t give a solution to this problem? You are not going to have kids because you are not nationalistic, you are not going to have kids because you may lose your only child at any time, especially in the west. So what next? That was the topic?litleesoda said:Spare kids? Yes this is more convincing :dry: No one has more than one kid with the intention of having those "extra" kids as spares to the first one.
Do any of you have kids of your own? If so, how many? I don't think the people crying about people not having enough kids realize how difficult it is to raise kids.
Good luck convincing your wives to have 6 kids, especially if your living in the west, married to an educated women, and aren't living with extended family.
~..Parkhaneeta..~ said:Id rather have 2 healthy kids, raise them good,make sure I provide them with everything than having 10 kids and not provide them with thier needs.... I cant see my kid being hungry and I dont have money to feed them. Plus when I have kids id quit work and just be with them and raise them till they are in school so I cant make my husband work day and night. We have to think about it this way and not say oh muslim people are more.. They live on streets
lolHanuni said:Every Assyrian family in the west should have at least 3 kids. 4 would be great. 2 means our destruction.
Moneer Cherie said:But you didn?t give a solution to this problem? You are not going to have kids because you are not nationalistic, you are not going to have kids because you may lose your only child at any time, especially in the west. So what next? That was the topic?
While chatting to a Kurdish guy face to face he told me, look you people only have two kids and educate them and?bla bla But we on the other hands have 10 kids, he said his father married four wives, So now we are living in ?our? homeland ?Kurd?n? While you have no homeland living in the west facing extension.
Was he right or not?
I don’t know were the number 10 came from? If you read my first post when I opened this subject with “who do you know have 6 kids” So to me even 6 were a big number!litleesoda said:I did not say I am not nationalistic. Just because someone does not want to have 10 kids as a way to compete with muslims, does not mean they are not nationalistic. I'm not about to have kids left and right because it will help increase our numbers. If I can't be a good parent and give them all the attention they want and need, then what kind of life can I give them? Why would I want them to live as some muslims do? I don't want to have kids running around, without discipline, unkempt, obnoxious, etc because I want to keep up with the muslims next door. Besides, it comes down to quality vs. quantity. I rather raise a couple of nasheh, instead of ten haywaneh. I think this is more beneficial to our people, then just raising our numbers.
I like your thinking!shekwanta said:like Moneer asked--> if the girl was married to a rich guy would she get 4 kids?
-->if it was ME who was married to a rich guy, i would get 100 kids (all boys) and raise them, to "support" our assyrian nation "that is left!"
(my husband is not gonna do ANYTHING with a 100 million in his /qora!/ grave)
(call me old)-->i dont have that "nowdays" brain of --> "go out!, have fun!, and leave everyyyything behiiiiind!"
i dont want us (assyrians) to extinct. and i dont think of any joy in life, without other assyrians! (around me, supporting me).